Tuesday, March 25, 2014

You're My Gift To The World, Go Be You.



Keller –

I never knew a love, like the one I have for you, existed. I love your mom with all my heart, and we were both very excited to have you join our lives. She is more likely to express that outwardly than I, mine was more like a duck on a pond. I strive to remain stoic and calm in any situation, but I think it’s a little deeper than that. Your mom shared a physical connection with you from the time you were conceived. I could only watch you grow inside of her, and wait with anxiety of how life would change. Selfishly, I thought of things I’d give up, things she and I would not do together for the next few years. 

I was in the room the night you were born. I had my plan to stay by your mom’s side, and wait for you to be presented to us.  Your mom had some nice pain relief going on, but when the nurse came in and said it was go time, everything changed, it wasn’t chaotic, it wasn’t rehearsed. It was an experience I can only hope you have one day. It was one of the best moments of my life, and the first of yours, the first of ours, as a family. I watched you all the way into my arms, knowing the emotions I was supposed to feel, but being overcome with such an intense feeling of love and happiness that any words on this page are incapable of capturing.

I had a plan to write to you every day of your life. You’re almost two years old now and this is my first time. I’ve watched you transform into a tiny person, with your own personality, mannerisms and expressions that bring so much joy to my heart, that I’m terrified of when you lose that. You’ve been the best gift to your mother and I, and we love watching you grow. Paradoxically, we know that you’ll encounter things that are going to make you sad, question humanity, and take away the innocence and wonderment with which you view the world now.

Life is not fair. There are thousands of moms and dads that have lost their children, there are thousands of children that have lost their moms and dads. If that were to ever happen to us, as painful of an experience as that can possibly be, keep moving forward. I love you more than anything in this world, or after it. You are the best of me, take that with you and do something extraordinary. Be great. Be humble. Be you. But never let sadness overtake your will, you’re allowed your moments, let them be fleeting. You’re the best thing I know in this world, and responsible for sharing that everyone you come into contact with.

The image that remains with me is your smile, you can’t tell me you love me yet, so your smile says it to me. Know that every time you do, my heart grows a little more. I intend to write you more often, and leave you with lessons I’ve learned over the years in hopes that you don’t have to learn them the same way I did. I set out to write you these great letters, and end up crying as I think that you’ll be reading them after I’m gone. That’s okay, you were my gift to the world, you were what I was created for. My greatest pleasure in life was being your dad, and making you smile. 

I love you, buddy.

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